After a real long time I am re-starting my blog. After
reading some of my posts in the blog I am amazed how I could disconnect from it
for so long. It’s a means of putting my
thoughts and opinions. In a way it’s a let out and in other way it’s way of getting
connected with people.
Recently (or always made to think) I have been thinking
about human relations. A very complex aspect, I would say the most complex
thing in the world. With every human being we come across we share a certain
relationship. Even with a stranger there is a relationship. Do not we call by
the name stranger? It’s a way of having that ‘strange’ relationship.
Letting our egos go is the only key and way to survive or
enjoy any relation. This is not new and everyone would have experienced.
Most of the times the known relations of parents, spouse,
children, siblings, in-laws, friends, neighbors, relatives and colleagues will
be going on daily basis. But sometimes it gets to a point where one needs to
put extra effort to get the relationship going.
Having issues/fights with spouse is very common. And if it
gets out of control then one has to put positive efforts to make it work. I
myself has gone through this phase and I am happy that the efforts we put that
time is still lot of worth and we re-discovered ourselves as someone very much worth
sharing our lives with. Once it is done, there will not be any looking back.
Some will express that love they share and some will not bond. But still it is
the relationship of life.
With parents, often few will have issues. But with this too,
even with not putting any efforts, somehow that parental connection is awesome.
I have heard stories about my parents’
relation with their respective parents. What gaps they had and what they loved.
I also have almost same share of experiences but I am very happy about my
blessings.
With kids most of the times it’s unconditional love. It
cannot be expressed in words. I would say the love we share with our kids is
out of the world. Nothing can replace it. Whether it’s boy or girl, I think
people should love their kids equally and among kids also there should not be
any divide. My son is the biggest teacher in my life and taught me lot of
patience. Kids are given by God just to enjoy their growing up years and
experience their golden days of growing years. If we have expectations from them,
it is like give and take, which I feel should not be done. After my son is born I have always felt God
has blessed me in every possible way He can because through him He has reached me
physically.
With siblings, it’s common to have differences and fights. We
also used to fight even when we were in colleges and my parents used to
moderate. But still blood relation holds somewhere the thread. I consider my
sister as my best friend with whom I can share anything and everything and she
also does the same. It is this untold
factor that holds us very close.
With neighbors, colleagues and relatives, even though it is
very informal, among them we hold good regards for few. It is good to keep
looking everywhere to learn from everyone.
Apart from few, I have been happy to have good colleagues, neighbors and
relatives with whom I have always enjoyed working, talking, enjoying respectively.
With in-laws too, definitely there will be issues because we
will be from different backgrounds, still after sometime once we get to know
them, we’ll get used to them and share a cordial relationship.
Last but not least, the friends. It is one such relation
where one has to give up their egos and competition. Then only a friendship can
survive. I have a friend who is in US, but never forgets to wish on my B’day,
who keeps talking to me how much-ever busy she is and she still considers me as
her best friend. I am the kind of a person who do not have many friends but
very few, but stick to them forever . I have had many friends and best-friends
too. I also had a friend who is now settled in Australia who does not have time to send me msg even on whatapp (all know how easy it is over there). Some have gone in their paths forgetting friendship for no reason which even after unanimous efforts from my side have failed to come back. I get
a feeling of getting dumped and pains a lot :(,
I have to move on counting on other friends.
Overall I have had good relations with almost whomever I have
come across. I have had issues with almost everyone but still enjoy their
company and want to get good out of everyone. In that way God makes me grow
which is what is required for me to have a satisfying life.
