Human re(a)l(iz)ations

After a real long time I am re-starting my blog. After reading some of my posts in the blog I am amazed how I could disconnect from it for so long. It’s  a means of putting my thoughts and opinions. In a way it’s a let out and in other way it’s way of getting connected with people.

Recently (or always made to think) I have been thinking about human relations. A very complex aspect, I would say the most complex thing in the world. With every human being we come across we share a certain relationship. Even with a stranger there is a relationship. Do not we call by the name stranger? It’s a way of having that ‘strange’ relationship.

Letting our egos go is the only key and way to survive or enjoy any relation. This is not new and everyone would have experienced.

Most of the times the known relations of parents, spouse, children, siblings, in-laws, friends, neighbors, relatives and colleagues will be going on daily basis. But sometimes it gets to a point where one needs to put extra effort to get the relationship going.

Having issues/fights with spouse is very common. And if it gets out of control then one has to put positive efforts to make it work. I myself has gone through this phase and I am happy that the efforts we put that time is still lot of worth and we re-discovered ourselves as someone very much worth sharing our lives with. Once it is done, there will not be any looking back. Some will express that love they share and some will not bond. But still it is the relationship of life.

With parents, often few will have issues. But with this too, even with not putting any efforts, somehow that parental connection is awesome.  I have heard stories about my parents’ relation with their respective parents. What gaps they had and what they loved. I also have almost same share of experiences but I am very happy about my blessings.

With kids most of the times it’s unconditional love. It cannot be expressed in words. I would say the love we share with our kids is out of the world. Nothing can replace it. Whether it’s boy or girl, I think people should love their kids equally and among kids also there should not be any divide. My son is the biggest teacher in my life and taught me lot of patience. Kids are given by God just to enjoy their growing up years and experience their golden days of growing years. If we have expectations from them, it is like give and take, which I feel should not be done.  After my son is born I have always felt God has blessed me in every possible way He can because through him He has reached me physically.

With siblings, it’s common to have differences and fights. We also used to fight even when we were in colleges and my parents used to moderate. But still blood relation holds somewhere the thread. I consider my sister as my best friend with whom I can share anything and everything and she also does the same.  It is this untold factor that holds us very close.

With neighbors, colleagues and relatives, even though it is very informal, among them we hold good regards for few. It is good to keep looking everywhere to learn from everyone.  Apart from few, I have been happy to have good colleagues, neighbors and relatives with whom I have always enjoyed working, talking, enjoying respectively.

With in-laws too, definitely there will be issues because we will be from different backgrounds, still after sometime once we get to know them, we’ll get used to them and share a cordial relationship.

Last but not least, the friends. It is one such relation where one has to give up their egos and competition. Then only a friendship can survive. I have a friend who is in US, but never forgets to wish on my B’day, who keeps talking to me how much-ever busy she is and she still considers me as her best friend. I am the kind of a person who do not have many friends but very few, but stick to them forever . I have had many friends and best-friends too.  I also had a friend who is now settled in Australia who does not have time to send me msg even on whatapp (all know how easy it is over there). Some have gone in their paths forgetting friendship for no reason which even after unanimous efforts from my side have failed to come back. I get a feeling of getting dumped and pains a lot :(, I have to move on counting  on other friends.

Overall I have had good relations with almost whomever I have come across. I have had issues with almost everyone but still enjoy their company and want to get good out of everyone. In that way God makes me grow which is what is required for me to have a satisfying life.

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Not so proud Indian

 I am writing this post with a very heavy heart. I did not know that one day I have to write that I am not so proud as an Indian. I have been reading and hearing the news of Delhi gang rape case. These kinds of rapes are not new in India or in any other country. But the intensity and the frequency of such cruel acts are very high in this country.

In the Delhi gang rape case, the victim is tortured to the maximum extent so that her intestines have come out. This is very brutal way of torturing anyone. Even animals do not behave this way. Animals just attack for the sake of food. But such hooligans attack for their mean desires. Such people should be tortured the way they have tortured the girl and the torture should be made public so that others do not dare to do such acts again. I cannot believe they are born from a woman’s womb. Do such people have mothers at all? If the same treatment is given to their mothers and sisters then will they be able to digest it and live with it?

I am afraid that people tell that because of the kind of dresses worn by women will result in men getting provoked and leading to such situations. But are there no incidents when women are in a saree? I read about a news where a 2-year old girl is raped. Can she have any dress which is provocative?

What is most painful is the way government is reacting to the situation. I feel that there is no connectivity between the ruling and the ruled. All statements from politicos are politically motivated and calculated rather than rational. I get no hopes of improved security or concern for women. Women in this country are subjected to many tortures in their lives in a patriarchal and misogynist world like ours.  

In this country there is no equality for women. That’s why there is no progress and India can never become a developed nation mainly because of I’ll tell you because of women’s curses. Right from birth, why birth? Before birth itself they do not want daughters. I know a friend of mine veena (name changed) who tells that her father never wanted a girl. She is the fourth child in her family and her father wanted to get the gender test done for the embryo.  The result turned out to be that it’s a girl child.  Her mother was asked to eat pills so that the fetus dies. But somehow that did not work and my friend survived and she was born. She does not have any respect to her father because she knows about this incident.

It’s horrible the way women are treated in India during birth, teen-age, marriage, after marriage, after child birth. It’s women who run the show in every family and they should be respected. Men and women are equal in every family and this society. That should be realized. I do not have any respect for people who do not have any respect for women. Because they do not deserve it.

I definitely want to salute the protestors in the capital who have left all their personal work to come out in masses and fight for a cause. I can only pray that their concerns are addressed and stricter laws made to bring the culprits who torture women. I feel more such protests should happen with more frequency and intensity. Then only the government can realize people’s power and bent to take actions. Such days should come and I just hope they are nearer.

Last but not least my sincere prayer with the victim who is battling for life against odds for the mistake which she did not commit. My prayers with her family.

India will only shine when such innocents get justice at-least.

A proverb for today

Today i was discussing something with my friend about the word "adhama" which is a kannada word.

I rememebered this kannada proverb..

"adadeye maduvavanu roodhiyoluthamanu

adi maduvavanu madhyamanu

adiyoo maadadavanu adhamanu"

which means

the one doesn't tell about his/her work but does it is superior

the one who tells and does his/her work is an average

but the one who tells but still doesn't do it is stupid..

applies to all people at all places in all the contexts...isn't it?

Give it a thought!

 

With Best wishes It's TVR..

Rest In Peace - Savitha

Last week came to know about the death of Savitha in Ireland. Was shocked by the way she died. She was denied abortion even after her requesting multiple times. She died with a lot of pain.

Pregnancy and child-birth are like re-birth for a woman. And savitha did not come back from this phase.

But I wish her soul rest in peace and I pray and hope that no other woman goes through such pain, torture and die in any country in the name of religion or caste.

Let humanity win over all aspects of religion, caste, creed or country.

Theen filmen (Three movies)

In the last 1 month I watched three movies which I wanted to watch after hearing about the positive reviews on them – Barfi, English-Vinglish and Kahani.

Barfi is a very nice and feel-good movie I watched after a long time. It has a very powerful message on un-conditional love and affection. Hats off to the cinematography, lyrics, music and last but not least the performances by Ranbir Kapoor and Priyanka Chopra. Both Ranbir and Priyanka have given flawless performances and no doubt they are among the best actors in bollywood today.

English-Vinglish again is a very simple story told in a very simple way too. It also has a message which no one can ignore. The contribution of ladies in the house, how it is taken for granted and not-recognized. Again very good performance by Sridevi.

Kahani of-course does not have any message. It’s a suspense movie which keeps one captivated and suspecting what may happen next. A great performance by Vidya Balan.

These movies were not only entertaining but had a theme and message in them. Also they are not very high budget movies made. But still had a very good story line and acting which one get to see rarely in these days of commercialization in cinema.

Watched jab tak hai jaan purely because I am SRK fan. The movie did not have any message to be conveyed but it did not disappoint me and yes SRK too. I watched him on big-screen after a very long time and I was happy to see him in his original form of acting after a series of not-so-good movies of him (MNK, KANK, Ra.One – I have not watched these movies).

Last word: I am continuing my morning walks. I am surprised by my own determination to keep this habit going for nearly 1.5 months. Today morning listed to song “do dil aise milenge” from Jab we met. An evergreen movie with evergreen songs.

Bye for now,

With Best wishes It's TVR..

Thoughts in a morning walk

Since past one week I have started going for a morning walk for ½-1 hour daily. My doctor advised me to do little exercise to reduce my weight very seriously. SO I also took his advice very seriously and started this morning sessions of walk.

Really more than exercise or reducing weight or whatever health aspect I feel it’s the time I am getting for myself, for my own thoughts, for listening to music (usually devotional) on radio, for enjoying those songs and enjoying the sweat. I am feeling great and I can imagine how people feel who do exercise regularly.

It seems exercise increases the release of positive hormones in our body which reduce stress levels.  I do not want to put a big writing on benefits of exercising. I am not even sure that when I’ll lose focus and become lazy (which I do not want to). But people who have made it a habit are getting very good results out of it.

One of these days I was listening to song from the movie ‘The Dirty Picture’. The song is ‘Ishq sufiyana..’. What a great song! Good music and great lyrics. It goes something like .. ‘love is morning red, love is blossoming flower, love is divine blessing ..’ and so on. And the hero says I dedicate my love to you my love! It’s so nice to hear such things. It is tough to find such pure love in this world but actually true love is definitely all these as penned in the song.

I also remember watching this movie. Very good acting by actress Vidya Balan. She has carried the character so well on her shoulders.

I hear vachanas and bhajans sung by some famous Kannada singers. The vachanas are full on true and practical living in this world. Do’s and don’ts which if we follow, our lives become much easier and more meaningful.

Many such soothing songs come in the morning time and it’s pleasure for me to hear as I hardly get time to listen to songs in-between my son’s ’chota bheem’ watching.

I also see sun rise and experience light morning winds. I feel I am blessed by God in many ways at the end of the day after this exercise because it fills me with lot of energy and less negativity.

I hope to continue doing this for quite a long time at-least to enjoy the songs peacefully.

Bye, till I write next time I wish you all good health.

With Best wishes It's TVR..

Coming back..

Coming back..

I am coming back after a long time on my blog. Last year around same time I started writing this blog.  I got inspired by seeing my friends write in their blogs and I also started to write. I never thought that I would come this long in my writing that too in English.  But since June this year I did not write in my blog for various reasons. May be I did not get inspired enough to write on a topic.

Ever since I started this blog I wanted to make it a fun point where people enjoy reading it. But sometimes to be honest I have left out my frustrations also here which may not be correct. But for a writer, even the frustrations have to reflect in their writings.

Mostly my blogs are very much women centric and has kind of feminism in it which I definitely encourage because I believe very much equality for women as men. It’s neither freedom to ask for nor it is anything which anyone can grant. It is the birth right of every individual especially women who have been at the receiving end of some senseless society rules. Sometimes when it comes to women people tend to talk loose and see them down which is not correct. Hope my blog brings in some awareness about it.

I have written about my childhood many times and my likes and dislikes. Its good to get indulged in some of our past because it gives immense happiness.  The recollection about the movies which I enjoyed was the one which I enjoyed very much because I actually went through the movie watching joy when I was typing it.

Many things I wanted to write meanwhile. About my trip to Kukke, visit to Cubbon park, a peaceful stay at my native and also about my son’s pranks. But for various reasons I could not put them in words for a while.

Day before yesterday was Ganesh Chaturthi.  A  festival of lord Ganesha which I have enjoyed since my childhood days. I saw that my son was also enjoying this year. I was very happy to see him doing poojas innocently. I recalled how I used to go to many houses to see Ganeshas. One year I think we almost saw 80 Ganeshas which I and my friends used to have a count.  I and my father used to play with a tool called petlu.  I used to cry when we were leaving Ganesha in water. This year also the festival was fun. I prayed to lord Ganesha to give peace and content more than anything.

I wish lord Ganesha bless you all to fulfill your desires. And I also wish I continue to blog more to keep it alive to express my opinions, facts, pleasure and may be sometimes frustrations too.

Hope you all enjoy reading.

With Best wishes It's TVR..