A friend in need is a friend indeed

‘Value friendship for what there is in it,
not for what can be gotten out of it.’

‘One friend in a lifetime is much; two are many;
three are hardly possible.’

‘Difference of opinion was never, with me, a motive of separation from a friend.’

‘A good deed is never lost: he who sows courtesy reaps friendship; and he who plants kindness, gathers love.’

‘You will make more friends in a week by getting yourself interested in other people than you can in a year by trying to get people interested in you.’

‘A friend in need is a friend indeed.’

The final proverb, I have experience a lot. My friends were there for me when I was in need and I was there for my friends when they wanted me. But over a course of time, friends get their new friends and forget old friends or act at-least that they have forgotten their old ones.  Old friends get hurt a lot and when they have only few friends with whom they can share their feelings or thoughts liberally.
   But in friendship unlike relationship, true friends always wish their friends live happily and peacefully. It should be mutual and the core essence of true friendship. No place for all those negative emotions like feelings of jealous, hatred, competition etc.  in a true friendship  world.

 “It doesn’t hurt much when relations unknowlingly move away from us, but it definitely hurts a lot when they themselves increase their distance from us” – Unknown

One story of a true and trustworthy friendship is of Duryodhana and Karna from Mahabharatha. Their friendship was so strong and intimate that once Duryodhana’s wife Bhanumati and Karna will be playing a game (which in kannada is called ‘pagade’).  Bhanumati gets defeated by Karna in the game and Karna asks the object which they would have had a bet in the game. Bhanumati refuses and Karna in his excitement tries to pull her and her pearl necklace of Bhanumati breaks and get spread everywhere in the room. At this exact time Duryodhana enters room and both Karna and Bhanumati see him in excitement. Without a pinch of doubt about his wife as well as friend, Duryodhana asks Karna whether he should gather all the pearls or even get the necklace done back from those pearls? (To be more precise in Kannada, he asks “Muttanu aarisikodale ella ponisikodale?”).

Since ages, there have been stories of true friendship we have been hearing and we feel blessed when we get friends of our taste, emotions, feelings, behaviours etc. Not all will be blessed by that.

Hope all the friendships gloom despite being in the dark shadow and may all people get their true friends similar to finding their true love. J