lovable thoughts

These are the thoughts on love from one of the blogs I follow, a blog of Preeti Shenoy. While agree most of the thoughts on love what she has listed. Sometimes it is required to look back and also interrogate ourselves what is the love we have in our lives?!

Love is when you have that goofy look in your eyes and your smile stretches across your whole face.

Love is when you still do crazy things like calling each other thrice a day even though you're in the same town.

Love is still waiting to see each other at the end of the day.

Love is him telling all his friends about me, proudly.
 
Love is fighting like crazy but still hugging each other at the end of the day, because you can't sleep otherwise.

Love is doing something you hate, just because the other person loves it.

Love is each one thinking that they are lucky to have got the other person.

Love is something that casts a warm glow in your heart.

Love is still feeling a bit (a teeny weeny bit) jealous when I say that some guy looks handsome.

Love is saying cheeky things because you know you can get away with it :)

Love is what has stood the test of time.

My own thoughts on love:

Love is going through the same pain when the other one is going through a pain.

Love is having concerns of the other person as yours.

Love is respecting each other and their backgrounds.

Love is being there for the other person when he/she needs the most.

With Best wishes It's TVR..

A starry experience!

My Brother-in-law (BIL) got a promotion. Me and husband had demanded a treat (in a five* hotel) from him when he had bought a plot in Bangalore. Both I and my husband had forgotten about it. My BIL was excited about his rating in office and he recollected that he had a treat pending from him and that too a hi-fi treat. So we decided to go on May 1^st. But May 1^st was a Tuesday and we did not want to go on a holiday in the mid of the week because we cannot cherish the moments in office the next day.  So we thought we will go on Saturday. But Saturday was very tiring. I and my husband went to a new Puneeth movie – Anna bond. So again we shifted the treat day to Sunday.

So the excitement started previous day and we were discussing about our wardrobe choices. We were imagining about the entry into the venue, the way we feel and all that stuff.
 Finally on Sunday my BIL booked 3 seats for Sunday brunch (that is what Sunday afternoon lunch is called) at ‘The Lalith Ashok’ hotel which is one of the oldest existing 5* hotels in Bangalore. The cost of each meal was whopping Rs.1750+VAT = ~ Rs.2000/head. We were little setback after hearing the price of the meal because for we middle class people, it is one month grocery cost. My BIL still insisted we go and we also thought it will be a different experience and set off to Hotel Lalith Ashok on Sunday afternoon and we were there by 12:45pm.  
The experience of entering the gate and the lobby was really good. We were feeling we are entering into an elite place and we had our own inhibitions because of coming from a middle class upbringing. After entering the restaurant we were made to feel comfortable by the staff and everyone was very much courteous to treat us good and we were well attended to seat ourselves outdoors near the swimming pool. Having lunch/dinner outside in the outdoors is always a different and pleasant experience. Once I and my husband had dinner in Goa in the outdoors with a background music being played and with lights on in the park.

Here too a live music was present and it was very good western singing. Then they started serving beverages and starters. Everything including beverages, starters was un-limited. We tasted almost 6-7 types of starters and two-three varieties of juices. The way things were organized for buffet was too good. They were all very good to see, the garnishing and the setting of salads, desserts, main-course, fruits..everything was good. Then I thought simply some hotels may not be rated with stars. All the dishes were very tasty and good. We tried different varieties in salads/desserts and in almost everything. We did not want to miss any experience. My son also enjoyed a lot of juices and starters. He played on the laws next to pool. For the first time he was seeing a swimming pool and he was feeling very excited to see so much water inside the city he had seen only natural sources of water! J.  We three also played a lot with him on the lawn.

Overall it was a very exciting and happy experience as we were also in good mood and health because once I and my husband had been to Le-Meridian hotel for dinner sponsored by my company for our anniversary. Even-though everything was same, we could not enjoy to the full extent because both of us were not well that day. After coming out of the hotel after spending 3 hours in the hotel we were very happy at the treatment and the food except that they did not have a menu for us to know what are the items.  We thought we can still afford it at-least once in a year for any special occasion. I thought I could see some sports/cine stars. But I could not find anyone except one TV anchor who had come with her boyfriend. Instead we ourselves felt like stars and thanks to my BIL who made us have a starry experience!

With Best wishes It's TVR..

Living for others

Some people live for themselves. Right. They enjoy all the comfort and do not bother about anyone else. They just see to it that their comfort zone is not disturbed no matter even if their kids/siblings/friends are hurt or struggle. They just need their happiness and luxury of being emotionally independent in a different way.

 However some expect others also be like that. They do not disturb others zone. But some do not expect others to live like that. They just want to bug others so that their comfort levels are always met. Their expectations and requirements are always met no matter what happens to others expectations. They think let others go and even die, they should be happy.

But some live for others. I am not talking people who do a lot of social service. I am talking about people who live in a family and live for others – for the happiness of their siblings/kids/parents/relatives/friends. But I see that they end up in losing their happiness because most of the people to whom they live for do not exactly give back not even in the minimum terms and in the mean-time they would have lot of compromises in their lives.

Life for such people is a struggle on a day to day basis. Their state becomes so pathetic that no one acknowledges the sacrifices they make. The love they would have shared, the services they have done but others make their lives miserable. In office, at home life becomes a trishanku state(Not earth, nor the skies). Finally they end up just breathing because they have to breathe. Because again they are living for someone else’s happiness. If they leave this world, people who really love them will be in pain and he/she cannot bear to see their loved ones’ pain even from the skies.

This blog is dedicated today for such people who live for others and are unsung heroes in day to day life.

TVR..

When The Earth Shook

It was a normal day with less work load and I was in relaxed mood. After my lunch and long chat with my friends, I came back to my cubicle and was reading a technical email not so seriously.  I felt the desk on which I had placed my hands on the mouse shook a little. I felt it could be my giddiness because of a warm afternoon then again my friend told see how the water bottle on her desk is shaking. Then I felt somewhat weird is happening. Then I got up and my cubicle wall on which I leaned shook a little. Then I and my friend thought it could be earthquake and started to walk out of the building. We told to some of our neighbors and then they did not care telling they did not feel anything. But we did not care and we walked out.

When we went out of building we saw already a bunch of people outside and it confirmed that we experienced tremors. It was really a scary experience. Until I came out of building I was scared when the tremors increase and the roof falls on my head. First thing flashed to my mind was just to escape from my building. Then one of my friends who was standing outside called her friend inside the office to come out. The other friend was asking my friend whether to bring any of her valuables because anyway she is coming out. I was not knowing whether to laugh at it or feel foolish about it. Because you are the most valuable person for your family and your life is valuable than the non-living objects. Then the entire building was evacuated for 0.5hr.  Some FM channels were making fun of it like Bangalore is shaking and its because Rajnikant had kept his mobile in vibrating mode!  The funny side of it.

I was scared for a while because I had seen the impacts of earth quakes and Tsunamis in TV. The scenes were horrible. May be the tremors we experienced were very mild but it takes few days to get out of the memory.  This kind of experience I had when Gujarat had experienced earth quake with Latur being the epicenter of the quake and massive damages. The night in which the incident happened I was sleeping on the floor in first floor in our house and got up when the shaking started because the tremor was very strong. Then I saw that the godrej almera was banging to the wall. I still remember that night very well when my father came running to take us outside. He told it must be earthquake and indeed it was when we saw large-scale damage it had caused in Gujarat.

That time I was in my teens and I did not feel much. But today I felt I should save my life first. As soon as I came out I called up my son’s crèche and asked them to get the kids out. They did not take it seriously but I could not do anything too. Then i called my family members. I just wanted my family to be safe.  Biggest fear was that I can run but my son cannot run outside based on the consequences. I just wanted him to live at that moment whatever may happen to me. 

Then I and my friend were discussing how uncertain our lives are and also how precious our lives are. We should enjoy our lives to full extent. When something happens in nature, when natural calamities happen then the results are catastrophic to such a large extent and nothing will be in our hands. We struggle so hard to build houses and the houses may not be there when earth shakes. What is important is just to live the moment and enjoy every moment of our lives. For people who did not experience it, this might not have struck that much, but people who felt, it was really scary and I was sweating until I went out.

This kind of mindset comes when we get such experiences of natural calamities and we want to be with our loved ones that moment.

Today I am leaving my office early. Feeling as to see my son and just want to spend time with him.

With Best wishes It's TVR..

My Home

Everyone wants to put an adjective ‘sweet’ to home. Yes my home is my sweet home. I have worked on the details of it by myself. My mother in my marriage gave us the utensils and all the pooja materials as part of formalities of marriage. She was in my home and with me in the initial days of setting up of my home when no sophisticated things were present in my home. She used to bring the materials required for my home daily by the time we used to come back from office in the first week of our stay in my new home. Ok, she brought only small things and she helped me set up the home, but the help I got from it and the confidence I got to run my home from that was good enough during the initial days. From the day 1 I own my home.

After that point, both I and my husband stayed in that small house in our first year of marriage before moving to different houses. We set up all the major items of the house (like TV, refrigerator, washing machine etc). Many of other essential items I had got as marriage gifts from my aunts and uncles like gas stove, cooker, mixer etc.

I do not care if anyone admires it or not, nor if anyone remembers how my home was set up. But I definitely remember those initial days. We were not getting the kind of salary packages we are getting now because we got married in our early 20s. So it was a little different experience at the startup and it was good too.

Now in our home (I do not want to call it a house, its ‘home’) I have all the necessities which a home should have. I have developed an immense attachment towards it. It may be a rented house but as long as we are living in it, it’s ours. Because all the details in the house are worked by me in that house. I have struggled hard to build my home the way it is. I work in office and at home, but still once I come back to my home I feel contended. I want to keep it clean as per my standards.  I do not want to be judged by others’ standards for my cleanliness. It’s their problem if they do not agree with the way I have kept my home because as per my standards others may not be clean enough right!

Yes there always comes comparison with my hometown home where I grew up and having all my memories with the house in Tumkur. I love the house where I was brought up. I like to spend some of my time in that house once in a year. I do not deny any attachments to my hometown nor my ancestral home.

But now my first love is my home where my family lives and breeds.  Where I dwell and struggle in my day to day activities. Where there is lot of effort and struggle, you love that part too somewhere in the corner of our hearts. Because it’s for my own family I am struggling and I want to see my family happy at the end of the day with my struggle. And with our own hard-work whatever I get I feel contended and fulfilled in that and one feels he/she owns it. That is how my home is built over the years and I own it undoubtedly.

I want my son to grow up happily in my home and he should also feel proud about what as a family we achieved together and I want to gain respect from him for all the hard-work done for the home and love we share.

With Best wishes It's TVR..

Happy 101th women’s day - 8th March

“MAY SOLIDARITY SHINE today & always. May women be equal. May there be no violence. Peace!”

May equality and dignity be there for every woman in every forum and in every house. Let there be decrease or eradication of inequalities against women worldwide.

To daughters, to mothers, to sisters, to girl friends — and to men who support what today is all about:

Happy International Women’s Day!

This is the quote I got in my office:

Proud to be a woman..
TVR..

Feeling of Pain

Feeling of pain no one wants. No one wants to foresee a pain coming to him/her. No one wants to recollect anything to feel the pain. Some forgotten thoughts in subconscious mind are like knife is a shawl.  You will only know the pain when you put on the shawl and only you can make out the pain given by the pricking knife. You do not want the shawl with knife. From outside everything looks fine but  no one can make out the knife inside it.

Such are the sorts of some of the pains in life. When it pains no one can understand what we go through. Only we know the pain that knife gives. And to no one we should tell that there is a knife. They tell its in our imagination and they cannot see it.

It pains more when there is self-blame for keeping the knife inside and being blamed for the pain it gives. The whole and sole responsibility finally lies with us to get rid of the knife but is it so easy than said? I am not sure how people handle different situations of pain. But when you are alone in this process of pain, then it pains more. 

At-least if I can do this blogging or if I can throw the knife out definitely by not sharing with people, but through some other means, then I can get relieved. But I doubt such a situation can come until my death. That’s why one needs ‘mukti’ from this world and not re-birth.

My son now recites – “Asathoma Sadgamaya, thamasoma jyothirgamaya, Mrityormam Amritangamaya, Om shanti shanti shanti…”. True, only the true light of divinity can revive us from all our pains and not just humans.